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Cake day: December 6th, 2023

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  • Sure, I’ll give more details.

    I matched with her on Tinder and waited a few hours and she messaged me first, and not something generic but something about my profile. We started chatting over text and I suggested a short first “piano practice” date in a few days (we both play piano).

    The next day we had a 2+ hour call where we played video games (Fortnite, don’t judge, I don’t play that unless I play with someone else) together and just chatted. Everything was going great.

    The following days she was sending me super flirty texts (“my skirt will distract you”, and suggestive stuff about touching each other all over). I’ve never gotten texts like this in my life so I was slightly reserved but still flirty.

    The date went well, we both got along with each other and we sat real close to each other. I even gave her a flower, and she told me that made her feel so special. There was one point where our faces were close to each other and she might have wanted a kiss, but I chickened our and just hugged her.

    We planned a 2nd date as a movie date at my place. All the while we were feverently texting each other lots of things, from platonic to romantic to sexually suggestive. We even had a call meant to be a half hour but it lasted 1.5 hours. It reached a boiling point where we agreed on an “inter-date” study session the day before Valentine’s Day.

    It was just about half an hour and we were both trying to get work done in a very public place so I wasn’t touchy at all. She also brought up more somber topics like politics (we have the same political views for the most part). At the end, because Valentine’s Day was near, I asked her to be my Valentine (as per the suggestion of a female friend) and got an unenthusiastic “sure.”

    10 minutes later she texted that “we’d be better off as friends than a couple” because there was “no romantic physical chemistry” and cancelled the 2nd date.

    I really wanted to explain that I had little experience and that the 2nd date was where the “action” would truly begin. By this point I had developed a huge crush on her and my heart was broken. She really was just my type: nerdy, ambitious, and beautiful. Heck, I’m crying as I write this right now.





  • I’ve tried and I’m still trying. As someone who is a bit shorter than average and is socially awkward, it’s tough. Recently I’ve been able to get dates with 3 girls from dating apps (due to me being better at flirting and getting a few more matches than before), but they all went nowhere.

    1 girl didn’t seem to want any touching or flirty things on the first date and the conversation wasn’t smooth, so I friendzoned her.

    The other 2 girls immediately started with a flirty text conversation.

    I hit it off with first one over text, we were having long phone calls and sending raunchy stuff over text. I had one short date with and was planning a spicier 2nd date with but she cancelled because I asked her to be my Valentine on Valentine’s Day.

    The 2nd one wanted to take things slower, and friendzoned me after 2 longer dates. She also wasn’t that into touching.

    I never kissed any of these girls. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, especially with the first flirty girl.




  • SuperSpruce@lemmy.ziptoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldHow bad did I fuck up?
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    2 months ago

    If you really want to spend lots of money to reap the rewards from the credit cards, you can prepay them, so that your balance will be negative. You’ll also be seen as having “low revolving utilization.”

    The downside is you need the money upfront of course, money that could’ve been being invested.