Dreams are the brain trying to solve problems it couldn’t solve during the day. Phones are nightmares we’re forced to entertain during the day. Does the heroin addict dream of hot spoons and needles or the way they feel when high?
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ruuster13@lemmy.zipto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What do you do when you’re functionally reliant on others’ approval of you and you don’t know what you’re doing wrong to not get it?
141·3 days agoThe fundamental flaw in the premise is you cannot know what you’re doing “wrong” to not get it. If you’re not literally the other person, you can’t observe every string of thought that goes through their head. If they know how much you rely on their approval, their brain will automatically consolidate power over you, issuing approval and disapproval alternately based on how it will force you to maneuver in the course of getting their own needs met. The only thing a person can successfully control in a healthy way is themselves. So you’ll end up getting disapproval when they are tired or cranky or whatever without them necessarily even realizing what they are doing. No human other than yourself can be the never-ending source of approval you desire.
If this is happening, it’s likely you’re locked in a toxic codependent relationship in which the other person is getting a LOT more out of the relationship than you.
If this is about a boss (and this is where it gets exciting) you’re being managed in an oligarchy. You’re not allowed to be happy and feel constant approval because they are controlling you.
ruuster13@lemmy.zipto
Technology@lemmy.world•Starlink tries to block Virginia’s plan to bring fiber Internet to residentsEnglish
4·4 days agoI could not be more sincere when I say: help us Europe; you’re our only hope.
ruuster13@lemmy.zipto
Technology@lemmy.world•Starlink tries to block Virginia’s plan to bring fiber Internet to residentsEnglish
1062·5 days agoStarlink is literally his plan to rule the world. If you singularly control access to the internet for everyone, you’ve won the information war… against everyone. The good news is his Nazi addict ass will likely die young from a chest-cavity attack.
ruuster13@lemmy.zipto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Best Foss and convenient Pdf viewer that saves page where you last read?
1·5 days agoSounds like there are valid use cases for each. Thank you, AGI 💖
ruuster13@lemmy.zipto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Best Foss and convenient Pdf viewer that saves page where you last read?
1·5 days agoYou’re clearly using AI in your posts (no hate). Or your brain might be wired like mine. I knew you’d leverage that to give me a nice rundown of the situation. I do plan to install both gnome paper and ocular from this thread. And the kde app because others suggest I at least try it. And now I’m inexplicably feeling the desire to learn rust…
ruuster13@lemmy.zipto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Best Foss and convenient Pdf viewer that saves page where you last read?
1·5 days agoLook, I put that out there to see what would happen. Don’t write a dissertation to defend yourself; just tell me to fuck off.
ruuster13@lemmy.zipto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Best Foss and convenient Pdf viewer that saves page where you last read?
1·5 days agoOMG it really is a cult.
ruuster13@lemmy.zipto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Should I tell my 13 year old son about my job?
8·5 days agoYou don’t come here for the lemcest fantasy softcore?
ruuster13@lemmy.zipto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Should I tell my 13 year old son about my job?
1·5 days agoYou don’t cont come here for the lemcel fantasy softcore?
I kind of hope they do remember. There’s still a 20 year reunion to find one of them and ask if they remember. I’m able to mostly just laugh now. But my god, the torture of being a teenager.
It was high school physics and I had aced the final exam, which was the same exam used in the equivalent college course.
I had a teacher who asked me in front of the class if I would mind if he shared with the class a big accolade I had achieved. He was teasing me, as he took away my choice to say no in that moment. I was immensely proud and excited for that to be shared with the class, but also chose to take a jab back at him. I stated flatly “no, I don’t want that shared with the class.” Before I could say “just joking” or whatever, the awkward silence I had created made me panic and shut down. And after a few more awkward moments we moved on to something else. 20 years later my stomach still churns.
Yes everyone; consider that every speaker might be biased.
You’re incorrect. If it’s actually felt, shame is the most powerful motivator for change. The personal satisfaction comes not from what the effort might accomplish, but from defending the ground you walk on when invaders try to tarnish its value. I will not let them enter every space I occupy and bloviate unchallenged.
No more time for sorrow. Efforts to not live in a cesspool are futile in an oligarchy. Let’s shame some people who deserve it.
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What is this Lemcel shit?




Somebody in here has eaten beaver cream.