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Cake day: June 28th, 2023

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  • My philosophy is: “if everyone behaved like I did, would we have any/this problem?” and if the answer is no, I’m fine.

    The thing is that many people see injustice in the world and want to fix it now, which means forcing other people to not be assholes. But the problem with forcing other people to do/think something is that it doesn’t generally work, at least not without causing a massive amount of suffering in the other direction. Everyone generally thinks they’re the good guy of the story, no matter how much evil they do. They think the evil is necessary to stop other, more evil things.

    Like for example, Israelis think that Muslims wanna wipe them out, and so it’s only good to wipe these evildoers out first… And exactly the same thoughts happen in the other direction. At this point, it doesn’t matter anymore who started it. Both sides wanna stop the other side from doing more evil, and this attempt to stop is creating more evil.

    Doesn’t have to be so severe though. Could just be parents forcing their child to eat their veggies. Eating their veggies is good, and so you might think the parent is doing the right thing of forcing their child to eat it. But, most often, all that happens is that the child will forever hate eating veggies and as soon as it’s away from the parents, never eat veggies again. Until they turn adult and learn for themselves that eating veggies is good, and try to do it, but the trauma of being forced is hard to reverse.

    And that example is our constant state of existence with basically everything.

    Everyone wants to force everyone else to do/not do something, and even if one side is right, the action of forcefully trying to change someone else usually backfires in some way. Force doesn’t need to be physical force btw, shame (mental pain) is also a kind of force.

    I’m not saying you should turn the other cheek to everything. That force should never be stopped with force. I’m just saying that most of the time, you can’t make other people change their ways. But you can always completely change your own ways. And if everyone did that, we’d actually have no problems anymore. But most of the time, people start trying to fix problems in others before they fixed their own, and that is almost a complete waste of energy.

    Of course, that philosophy doesn’t stop injustices from happening right now. But it gives a peace of mind in some way. If you are truly convinced that if everyone was like you, the world would be a nice place, then you can be content, at least with yourself.

    Honestly, this is only part of the answer, there is more to answering your question fully, but I don’t wanna write more right now. If you want to know more, let me know.





  • Stop having a goal with women specifically. You talking about experience and success with women is literally the total opposite of what makes sense.

    Just have fun with a person. You have had fun interacting with people before, right? Just do that. The literal only difference is that you can sprinkle in some sexual innuendos or some shit, if you think of it. If not, also fine. Then go home and resume what you always do. Repeat.

    If while doing this you ever notice some sexual tension, just do something sexual. Touch them. Or tell them you find them attractive. Or ask to kiss them. Whatever, it literally doesn’t matter. If they don’t like it, you’ll likely notice because they tell you and then you can do something different. If they like it, you’ll also likely notice, and continue escalating from there. Touching platonic -> kissing -> making out hair/neck/back-> touching sexually titties/butt -> touching pussy. Natural progression.

    If you notice something afterwards, while thinking about it (like someone giving you obvious signals that you completely missed), if you can, just respond to the signal as soon as you notice, don’t think “now it’s too late”. In fact, it’s never to late until you tried it and it didn’t work.

    But yeah, I can’t stress this enough. The most important thing is to not expect anything. In fact, maybe you’ll never have sexual contact again. It’s best if you’re content with nothing but masturbating for the rest of your life.











  • What I mean with “you’re not the only one” is that you’ll be (probably easily) able to find people that are good for you. Didn’t mean to put light on the fact it’s a societal issue; might be, might not be, but it’s irrelevant. Just meant to say that enough good people are out there.

    If you’re like what you say you are, “staying with people in the hopes they might change for the better”, what I’ve noticed in my time on Earth is that “people like you” actually do find these problematic people specifically and spend their time with them. You want to improve the world and that means the people within them, and so you think your time is well spent like this.

    However, this is unfortunately almost totally wrong. Instead of achieving your goal, the problematic people just mostly stay like they are, and because of that all that happens is that you become miserable because you don’t see any improvement, and don’t have any meaningful relationships.

    If I may suggest an alternative, what I’ve found is that you actually have to find people that are already mostly good and have a proven track record of improving themselves. These are mostly good people. They have no big problems and no toxic behaviors. I assume you are such a person. So in other words, you have to find someone like you. If you do that, you can both improve together and help each other, instead of this one-sided thing you probably mostly had going on.

    And yeah, like you said, “not setting yourself on fire to keep others warm”, this means you have to stop spending time with the people that just drain you, even though it may sometimes be painful.

    Anyway, hope you have a wonderful time, because this is actually all really fun once you prioritize your own happiness while dealing with others :D



  • It’s just much more profitable for record labels to have a few superstars than thousands of mini-stars. A usual person won’t follow and buy from 100 music artists. They’ll buy from 1 to 10 or whatever. Having large fandoms allows you to sell more tertiary things like plush toys and shit like that, it wouldn’t be feasible to do that for thousands of artists.

    Large fandoms also make people feel like they belong, when there’s a Swiftie fanclub in any small town with dozens of people there’s a community, if only 1 person in a town were a fan of a specific artist, even if there’s 1 in every town, the networking effect would just be basically nonexistent.

    And in general there’s just too many amazing musicians. People love making music and as such there’s an oversupply. In addition to the above points that’s just capitalist supply and demand in play.