I learned on a 2000 Kia Sephia. Five speed, little four cylinder engine, that shit did not have a tachometer. I had to learn by the sound.

Even when I got into my Vr6 Jetta, or the Nissan spec-v (which had 6 gears) I was able to adjust my driving to the car easily because I first learned with sound. You learn the engine.

Probably try learning using both tbh

It’s fun. Thats good enough reason to learn a manual car.

I also prefer them in snow. Being able to slow your car down without hitting the breaks is awesome when you have to drive in snow.

This isn’t bad advice and is similar to advice given to me when I first started. It’s bad form to leave your hand always on the shifter. I was told it can wear out the linkage faster as your always putting pressure on it.

The first time I pop started a manual car I felt like a god lmao, it’s an awesome feature

I watched my ex drive a manual for over a year. I intently focused on when he was shifting and what not. When I got the car finally for myself, I just got in and went. I had a friend show me how to reverse in the parking lot. I called my supervisor and told her, “I’m driving the kia in today myself, I might be late” and I took my first ride. Made it to work on time, but stalled everywhere I went for two weeks until I got the hang of it. Took a bit longer to get the hang of downshifting.

Dont panic when you stall! You’re just rebooting, keep going!

I think most of us, here, have. It really is mostly old folks and idiots left now.

Someone mentioned here, their hoa uses fb as their digital square, and my park union does too. I just don’t get to get involved with the park union, Facebook unfortunately, has become ingrained in many community oriented organizations. I hate it. I refuse to go back there.

I don’t understand why people are ao eager to give their money and privacy to billionaires.

Maybe they used the wrong language. You roll your eyes, so you don’t hate life, heard.

So then why, genuinely, do you reject the idea of community with such conviction?

Eh, I became a stay at home mom over the pandemic, and while I’ve never worked in an office, but on the shop floor, I do miss the shenanigans. But its almost like a trauma bond, where its like, hey, we’re all stuck here, best make the nest of it and try snd have fun while we are here.

I’m fully isolated now, and at this point terrified of crowds, when i never was before.

Not arguing at all people who can work remotely shouldn’t, they should, for a litter or reasons. But I do miss my coworkers from my employee owned factory where culture was held in high standard. Im also not arguing this should be the only place one finds community, I’m only saying, for a person like me, it helped sometimes to joke around on the new guy or collectively bitch about issues at work or hear other folks problems and offer advice or help when I could.

We socialized outside of work too. I can’t get invited to a party, or a wedding, or anything if I literally don’t know anyone. I’ve only ever known how to make friends in structured environments. But that’s wierdo me.

I’m sorry to hear this. What makes you say this?

I was supposed to be childfree. I have c-ptsd from childhood, like my guardian did prison time for how bad of a parent they were.

Of course, I had no support from family as a young adult and found myself in a DV situation at 23. He never hit me, but did all the other standard abusive things. I tried leaving him around the three month mark, but it took me 3 years.

He was hell bent on having a baby. He wouldn’t let me on birth control, nor could I afford it anyway, so we used the oull out method. Until he’d pin me down and just, rape me. My son is my third pregnancy. The first two I was able to discreetly taken care of, by the third pregnancy from this man in a year, I felt guilt, and didnt have the freedom to even go to the doctors on my own. So I kept him.

Got free for real when my son was 14 months old. I dont deal with his father at all. No child support, once he lost control of me it was apparent he wanted nothing to do with the baby he had to have so badly.

My son is 12, with severe adhd and odd, mild conduct disorder.

Ive dedicated my life (giving up my career) to helping my son navigate his emotions and express them in a healthy way so we don’t repeat the patterns of, nearly every male in my and his bloodline. I’m thankful for the behaviorial health field of study.

Sometimes I feel like my kid’s father still has me trapped, especially on bad days. I wont discuss what regrets I have, we just move forward and do better tomorrow than today.

I sure as fuck am not abandoning my kid to the wolves as my family did to me. I wanted to break the cycle the easy way and just not habe kids, instead, I’m doing it the hard way and idk. Im doing it. I love my kid, hes a good kid.

I wouldn’t be shocked your mother is processing shame/guilt in this comment she made.

I’ve always tried to remain curious and open minded in my life. Do you know what I didn’t expect coming into motherhood? Needing to learn how to segregate my sense of self from my kid’s.

It was instinctual to feel my child’s embarrassment/guilt/pain as my own, or as a reflection apon me. While some actions kids make are a reflection of parenting, some are not. It’s hard to distinguish in the early years, I imagine it carried through the life stages if not adressed. Basically it’s learning to see a literal dna extension of yourself as their own being. Your mom caught some adrenaline from hearing you’re feeling depressed or she wouldn’t have said something so emotional and targeted.

I bet she’s overwhelmed and clearly doesn’t have the coping. Don’t take it personally, like, don’t internalize that shit. She too, her own person, and you didn’t ask for this. Feel free to keep your distance from her for a time. If you feel comfortable when you’re both in better headspace, tell her what she said hurt your feelings.

If she responds poorly, well mom’s a shit head and now you know it. If she responds kindly and apologizes, you’ve ground to work with.

I haven’t talked to my mom in 15 years, she responded poorly.

I hope you feel better, I’m glad you’re here today. Take care

Copacetic has an interesting history. I heard about it in a video I can’t currently find, but this article gives some history: wordorigins.org

You just don’t get it, you keep it copacetic…

I play bass and I always just listened to the song for 3 hours straight while figuring it out, writing down on makeshift sheet music the parts I got worked out. Could take hours or days depending on the song

Amazing folks can just run it through a program today, slow it down, I bet there is tech that can just, tell you the notes.

Amazing. I still learn manually this way lmao Sometimes I would just be fucking around and hit a spot, and suddenly realize thats part of a song I know, and it would all click into place.

Teaching my son to play guitar/read music this year and the tech today is so good. Hes years ahead of me when I was first starting out.

No tips, cuz I dont know the tech, I’m just impressed how far the tech has come in the last 25 years.

I’d guess young women do this kind of thing more frequently than women whose prefrontal cortex is fully developed.

Some people put expectations on what they want, and then get confused where they can’t find it. Live life with no expectations, and you’re less likely to get disappointed.

This absolutely. I’m a 5’1" lady, and I do like my partner to be taller than me, but basically everyone is taller than me.

If you lined up every man I’ve dated over my lifetime, you’d see men from 5’2" to 6’4".

The right people are there for the person, not shallow bullshit. Hygiene is the best indicator, yes. Good hygiene, nice person, you’ll find success.

When my now husband told me he was 6’3" my jaw dropped. Sure I was happy (he can reach the top shelf for me) but I seriously wouldn’t have batted an eye if he was shorter

Date kind people, not shallow cunts and you should be okay.

I dated one guy who told me he was 5’10". He was kind of a cunt. He was actually 5’7". It just showcased his insecurity. I didn’t like that. Wear yourself with pride. No one choses to be short/tall. Accept yourself and others will too.

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I just made this recipe. I eat carrots raw all the time, rarely cooked. This recipe surprised me, the carrots were very, very good.

They’re chopped and cooked on the stovetop, boiled carrots are blasphemy, this recipe was god teir tho

Pot roast? Cook pot roast? No, beef is too expensive, I just cook the pot.

As a mother I don’t really care for mothers day either. Nor do I care for Valentine’s day.

I am a mother everyday, and I love my husband everyday, I don’t need a capitalistic holiday that requires spending money to celebrate this.

I’ll take the cake on mother’s day, but mostly it’s for my kid and husband feel good for doing something, not because I expect it. Corpo holidays can fuck off wirh their expectations, yes

We learn from our mistakes don’t we? Hows it go, it’s only truly a mistake if we don’t learn from it.

It’s still your liberation day, and I still wish you the best in finding what you need in life. Love a good fresh start, be kind to yourself out there, stay genuine to your heart.