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Cake day: September 12th, 2023

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  • Have you encountered one of these people in real life?

    I have never met anyone who espouses any values like this nor have I see any online presence of someone like this, either.

    What I mean is, don’t overvalue the people on this online community you’ve found in a way that impacts your life. There aren’t throngs of people out there trying to castrate or kill you for being polyamorous because they want to replicate toxic relationships in anime and manga.





  • Personally, the issue is ease of installation and configuration of programs.

    Some things (edit: admittedly, most of the “important basics”, such as web browsers, Steam and Office-suite equivalents) are just as simple as they are on Windows and iOS with just clicking a button and using a wizard of sorts, but some things need you to parse a series of terminal prompts and figure out how to rewrite parts of the instructions to fit your particular machine and setup.

    Often I end up missing or misunderstanding some step and it doesn’t work and I have no idea why.

    It’s not impenetrable and it’s not a problem exclusive to Linux, but it does make setting things up a bit more of a chore.

    I got Ubuntu on a laptop now to test out how to use that as my daily OS before I commit to figuring out how to swap over my Windows 10 desktop sometime next year and it admittedly is MUCH EASIER now than when I last tried around 2008, but I still run into problems.

    I’m currently trying to schedule a weekend where I can diagnose why my raspberry pi won’t boot after a power outage when it’s survived that in the past and another weekend to figure out why the self hosted tandoor app I got successfully running a few months ago suddenly stopped and cannot run now, even after what I thought was a clean install.

    I wanna switch. I do. But so many steps of it are full on projects. I’m learning a lot and it gets easier every step of the way, but it’s still at a state where I need to schedule time to address these things that “just work” on Windows.

    Edit: I understand why this is the case. A lot of these things are free, open source projects made by teams who don’t necessarily have the time and resources to make their program out-of-the-box ready for every conceivable software and hardware set up out there. And I understand why someone might think that a corporate backing of resources might be able to address that issue, but I agree it isn’t really isn’t in accordance with the goals of Linux or helpful to the point of moving away from these corporate structures.








  • In the moment? Put him to bed. Tell him he’s too drunk and he’s causing problems, acting inappropriately and put him to bed. Tomorrow, explain what happened, if he’s not immediately remorseful hit him with the “Are you proud of your actions? Trying to touch my cock in front of my family?” be explicit. Explain that is unacceptable and if that’s how he’s going to act while drunk, he can’t drink that much around your family. Set these firm boundaries.

    If he’s a decent man, he’s gonna feel really regretful. You can explain you still love him, you still wanna be with him, you understand people get drunk and make bad decisions and ask him if he wants help metering his drinking and try to work out some code phrases to remind him to pace himself while saving face. Revelling drunks hate to be told “Slow down” or “Haven’t you had enough?” Something like touching his shoulder and saying “Whew, these drinks are strong! I think I’m gonna get a buffer water, do you want one, honey?”

    Also, get him a Gatorade before he goes to bed and one for when he wakes up, that should help the hangover in a big way. Any electrolytes will do. I like the Brode pills.

    Edit: Might wanna reassure him he didn’t ruin Christmas, buuuuut he might have made a memorable story 😏. Also if it’s too early in the day to go to bed, impress upon him he needs a lil nap and can rejoin the party after.