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Create-a-style was also awesome!

That’s the only one I know that runs on linux well, but it is not popular in most of the games I mod. I would not be able to make huge Skyrim modlists on it. I could string some valheim mods on it, but that’s about it so far. I stayed on windows for so long because I needed not just the games to run, but the mods I spend a lot of time on tinkering as well. I even tried other things like pushing a payload to a Nintendo switch recently and ended up just going back to my windows install where it detected RCM right away (but the linux tools I tried didn’t).

the modding scene on linux and how much busywork that took, that just killed a little bit of my soul.

Care to expand on that, I’m not too used to modding games, but from the times I tried it, it’s my understanding that 99% of the times it’s just putting stuff into the right folder. If not how is it different from Windows?

Alright so modding is actually harder on linux and stupid. You should use a mod manager and not manually install your mods so you can uninstall them easier, resolve conflicts easier, manage them, etc. But the mod managers don’t all work on linux natively. So you end up trying to get steam tinker launch working (to use vortex or mo2, but the creator hates modding and will let you know) or using other random things on github (like jackify). I spent way too much time trying to get this stuff to launch and that is before you start actually modding. I ended up doing some distro hopping to get the mod managers to work and ended up on CachyOs.

I was actually going to say I hated how misogynistic teachers were at school when it came to any dress code. They hyper focused on what girls were wearing, were their straps too narrow, were their shorts/skirts too high, etc. I have had teachers harass me about my clothes during my entire schooling starting from elementary school. We are drilled into us that our bodies are too revealing, scandalous, and dirty, so we should be ashamed. But then you become an adult and no one really gives a fuck what you wear. The only place that cares is where you end up working, and that can really be anything ranging from a fast food uniform to a suit to whatever you want to wear, etc. I’m not sure what your age is, but schools have made girls feel responsible for how other boys and men feel about their clothes since before social media. It’s our fault for being a “distraction” and ruining the learning environment. I had a male teacher fixate on me at one point, he said he turned his a/c on 24/7 to force all the girls to cover up but when I wouldn’t since I liked the a/c then it became his mission to stop lessons to tell me to cover up aka put a jacket on and make a big deal if I did not have one that day. Your comment reminded me of that teacher, and how much I was slut-shamed because my tank tops revealed my shoulders - gasp!

https://leta.mullvad.net/ uses Brave or Google

https://searx.space/ uses any of the big search engines you want, you do have to pick an instance

My first experiences on the internet were riddled with misogyny. As a child, I was told I am lying about being a girl and didn’t sound like one. I had many guys tell me “tits or gtfo” when learning I’m a girl, usually after they asked me if I was a girl. I tried playing some multiplayer team games online and was hazed once they found out I was a girl, multiple times. I refuse to play those games now. Even as an adult, I’ve had gamer guys think I’m great until they learn I’m a feminist, then the hate comes back. I’ve dated an adult man who belittled me for playing Sims because people with real lives play games like Overwatch. At least mainstream media felt like there were more women around, lemmy just feels more centered for men :/

I get that men are terrified about false rape accusations, even though there is an extremely low chance of it happening, they are afraid. When someone talks about sexual assault, in their mind they feel they need to defend themselves by bringing up false accusations because in their mind it will discourage this crime, bring light to real victims, and thus protect themselves. I’m not a man but this is what I’ve been told. Then you have victims, who simply want their rapist and other rapists to face justice. They often know others around them who have also been sexually assaulted. When they talk about sexual assault and someone else brings up false accusations, it feels like they don’t actually care about the victims and just want to soapbox about false accusations, stealing the spotlight. They might even be a toxic part of the manosphere.

The nature of the crime means it is usually the victim and the perpetrator alone and not in public, and the victim is more likely to know who the assaulter is. It can be a family member, friend, partner, etc. There usually isn’t much evidence to prove sexual assault. So we have a problem. As you said, you don’t believe a hefty amount of these sexual assaults should have laws enforced on them. I don’t have a solution, other than a suggestion that people should be more empathetic towards victims. And not ask questions like yours to victims.

Not sure if you were just reiterating, but yes it is depressing. It takes bravery to step forward knowing that it can cause further damage to oneself. Not just socially but mentally. I don’t have a perfect solution to this. But when the perpetrator is Trump, I doubt justice is going to happen.

I absolutely agree. If rape kits are made, they can be backlogged and then degrade, which is extremely depressing to think about.

Threads like this need to be followed up with eyebleach (a community full of cute animals and such).

Lemmy is mostly men, it is hard to share any other perspective. SA is hard to get a conviction in. If there isn’t physical evidence like semen, then the victim is called a liar. If there is semen evidence, then the victim is called someone who regretted their choice and is now getting back at the person. (And this is assuming the perpetrator was male, there can be female perpetrators too). A lot of victims do not come forward about what happened because they don’t want to be called a liar and labeled a pariah publicly. The absolute shame and rejection when someone doesn’t believe you. This subject is pretty sensitive to me and lemmy just really, really disappoints sometimes.

It does work with VPNs that are approved.

https://real-debrid.com/vpn

Disabled people are not going to all agree on everything, especially when they are pretty diverse. Some will like gen ai, and some will not.

Ok so let’s talk about conception briefly. You cannot physically remove the sperm from a female’s reproductive parts (fallopian tubes) after ejaculation in an attempt to prevent pregnancy. Sperm travels very fast. Douching does not prevent pregnancy and can even push sperm further into the uterus. Hormonal birth control can prevent ovulation and thicken the cervical mucus to prevent pregnancy (sperm has to enter the cervix to get to the fallopian tubes). Condoms should be self-explanatory as a physical barrier.

https://www.ucsfhealth.org/education/conception-how-it-works

Sorry if you meant this as a joke because I am going to take this literally (lol) but yes semen can impregnate people with uteruses but this can be mitigated with birth control. Oral birth control pills, IUD, arm implant, depo shot, etc. I have never had a pregnancy scare or unexpected pregnancy (nulliparous). Some people are into breeding fetishes or quiverfull, but I’m more of “I’ll have one kid in the future, maybe.”

At that point, condoms are probably better. It’s easy cleanup and you don’t have to deal with semen.

I think the disconnect here is that washing your hair usually doesn’t lead to health problems the way washing a vagina does (douching even with water causes pelvic inflammatory disease, for example). It is your choice, I just wanted to provide information about vaginal health because this mentality sounds like it comes from shame rather than any health reason. It’s not nasty (again, shame), vaginas do have smells like when you’re on your period. Mine only smelled weird with one partner, and even then I’ve never had a smell for very long unless there was an actual infection going on. Smells are usually no big deal, assuming there isn’t an infection. I know you mentioned it smelling “rank” before, I think you might benefit from visiting a gynecologist. Again, no shame, vaginas are a normal part of life for some of the population.

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/my-discharge-smells-like-my-boyfriend

I understand you might feel self-conscious about after unprotected sex if it causes a smell, but it is not good practice to rinse your vagina with water, vulva is ok but not vaginas. Vaginas are self cleaning, semen is taken out with vaginal discharge.

https://womenshealth.gov/a-z-topics/douching

Vulvas can be washed with water and unscented, mild soap if tolerated but not vaginas, they are self-cleaning.

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-clean-your-vagina

https://www.self.com/story/best-way-to-clean-vagina

when a website password breeds

I didn’t know passwords could reproduce, is that how password generators work? /j