Such an exhaustive list, thank you. These looks very interesting.

I get where you’re coming from but I’ve conceptually divorced my brother from these black and white dichotomies for my whole life, and to what cost on my own psyche? Ultimately we do have to pick sides and cultivate our own systems of values based on the world around us. He is not a neutral individual, nor am I.

To me there is only one true dichotomy and he has chosen the side of oligarchy and I have not.

I relate to this very strongly. And maybe it’s not an AITAH type question — I think of it as doing something for myself more than anything else. Sure I might lose relationships with family members but what will I gain emotionally and mentally? And will that outweigh the familial loss in the long run? … Lots to think about

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Who are “they” in this situation? Maybe I’m completely blinded by leftist propaganda but the divide seems pretty inherent to the differences in my brother’s values to my own.

Perhaps I should clarify things even further:

They are actually already married and I was at their first wedding. It was done at the courthouse during the pandemic so they could initiate her greencard application. This upcoming wedding is more of a celebration for the families.

I have two other brothers who are not going for unrelated reasons.

Not that these facts necessarily change anything, I felt they’re worth bearing in mind.

I have compromised with my family my entire life and it has taken a mental toll on me. They have talked down to me and ridiculed my values for much of my life. I am deeply committed to human rights on a personal level and spend much of my free time volunteering in my community. These are not minor values. Perhaps I’m being extreme but making light of a nazi salute is also quite extreme.

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This is fantastic! Thank you kind stranger <3

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All sounds like workable advice, thanks bud. Appreciate the long reply

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Saw someone poop off the red line train in chicago. Impressive considering he did it in the brief time the doors were open.

The best I’ve ever received! 🥰

I was dancing at a club a couple years ago and someone came up to me and yelled without pause “Are you a boy or a girl you’re gorgeous”

And I’m so grateful for the man with the pocket knife. I think my head would be in a very different place at this point had it gone the other way.

When I was visiting Berlin several years ago, I was walking past Hermannplatz Station to meet up with a friend for breakfast. I was on the opposite side of the street from the station entrance/elevators when I noticed some commotion near one of the elevator doors. I went over to see if everything was cool but I was horrified to find three small dogs being pulled down by their collars into the closed elevator doors. They were flailing for dear life as the elevator had started to go down to the platform with their collars still attached, which was strangling all three of them. There were people around but either they didn’t notice or didn’t know what to do. I quickly bent down to them and started digging my thumbs under the collars to pry them off and was thankfully able to get two without too much issue. But the third dog was proving much more difficult. It’s possible the elevator had gone further down in that short time. I used all of my strength to try and get the extremely tight collar off but I just couldn’t get my fingers underneath. The dog was losing strength and I stopped hearing its wheezing, desperate voice. I turned around and there were a few people behind me screaming and yelling out of horror. I don’t know German and it seemed that everyone there couldn’t speak English; I made a sign for a scissors but nobody seemed to have anything sharp. But in that moment an older gentleman quickly bent down and pulled out his pocket knife. He was thankfully able to cut the collar off for the third.

After all of that, I just sat there with these three tiny dogs all climbing into my lap shivering and still breathing heavily. I stayed with them for a bit until two police officers showed up (who also didn’t speak much english or just chose not to). The group of people that formed around the elevators were holding the dogs and I just kinda left at that point. Seeing that the dogs were good and that the police showed up and were talking to the locals, I just left to meet up with my friend. We had a nice breakfast after that.