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It always comes across to me as a very american thing, specifically trying to make something feel older than it actually is.
I’m something like HelloThere XV because the firstborn son in my family has had the same name since at least the 1700s - even across language when we got forcibly relocated for sheep.
Would my future son be XVI? Sure - but they won’t have the actual numerals.
A - UK uses Trident, an American launch system, so it’s likely that any attack against America by the UK would somehow be disabled
B - that’s not how MAD works. If France, or the UK, launched anything nuclear the retaliation would be immediate and immense.
C - why try to invade 11 million canadians when there are only a few tens of thousands of greenlanders? If an intra-NATO war happens, that’s the more likely one imo.
What I remind myself is that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. It’s perfectly OK to say that after a long day your brain is soup and you just want to chill for the evening.
It’s also fine to say that your tired, but will come out for one or two and then leave, and then do just that. Obviously if you find yourself having a better time and enjoying it you can stay out.
I find that adults respect other adults more if you are upfront about your own boundaries. You also don’t need to make excuses, try to have the confidence to be straight forward and say you’re tired and will skip this one, or whatever.
Fucking is a perfectly acceptable pause word.
Ah, my time to shine!
Yeah, I basically see it as purposeful relaxing, like having a long bath.
YMMV but I’ve found meditation helps.
Sit somewhere quiet, close your eyes and focus on slowing down your breathing and try to feel your heart rate slow. After a minute or two, then try to think of nothing, or listen for the quietest sound you can hear and focus on that (a ticking clock in another room, someone else breathing, etc).
Now this is where it may be different for you. I was diagnosed with adhd has a kid and what I’m describing next is with that in mind. Basically all day my brain feels like it’s full of bees, sometimes less active, other times it’s a deafening buzz.
After a few further minutes of focusing on that quite sound, I’ll find individual things randomly pop in to my head, rather than a bunch all at once. Each time this happens I focus on what that thing is, and how it makes me feel. If for example I get angry, I let myself feel that, I don’t try and stuff it down, but I don’t let it overwhelm me. If I start to feel overwhelmed, I go back to the beginning and focus on slowing down my breathing.
In effect I’m trying to observe, and experience, that emotion simultaneously. This helps me do two things, first and foremost, I have much better - and healthier - control of my emotions during negative experiences (e.g. high stress), and can keep myself calm. Second, it allows me to go back to those emotions after the fact, and spend time working out why that experience led to that emotional response.
For frustration, sure, you can wail on a punching bag while blasting Hammer Smashed Face (which is very good in the moment), but I’ve found that that didn’t help me handle my emotions any better, it just meant I took out that repressed anger on other things. Which, sure, is probably better than nothing, but doesn’t help it you don’t have access to a punching bag.
It depends on circumstances you haven’t provided.
Mark is just a name for wrestling fans. There’s some connection to terms used by workers in carnivals in the early 1900s, but these days is largely ironic.
/c/squaredcircle is great, if you’re a filthy mark.
Hunt other rich men for sport, and have my very expensive team of lawyers keep me out of prison.
Stop trying to do the nasty in the pasty.
I’m not sure what country you’re in - in the UK there is a charity called “Citizens Advice” which, as the name suggests, can help you with legal, financial, and housing issues. They aren’t a type of benefit, but they know the law and your rights and will give correct advice and provide advocacy and support if required, is there anything equivalent to this where you live?
Be the change you want to see.
It’s excellent
Lie about having bone spurs.
Romeo and Juliet is a comedy, not a tragedy.
Two teenagers thinking their first crush is worth literally killing themselves in the dumbest scenario imaginable, I mean come on!
Tl;dr women are humans, talk to them as humans, and maybe they’ll be up for making another human with you.
This comparison is ridiculous as they are completely different. This isn’t about talking to other humans, it’s about trying to establish a romantic relationship. It isn’t a tautology that to date someone you had to speak to them.
Having spoken to someone a little bit before asking them out for a date is very standard behaviour in every environment outside of locations where people are there specifically to find a romantic relationship (be that just sex, or more), like a bar, tinder, speed dating, etc.
It’s like, don’t just approach a woman in the office that you’ve never spoken to, and ask her out. It’s very unlikely (but granted, not impossible) that she wants to go from total strangers, to starting a relationship with romantic intentions, with someone she also has never spoken to.
But, if you’re making a coffee and she’s there too, be friendly and talk to her. Ask socially normal and typical questions like if she had a good weekend, and if so what did she get up to. If she’s receptive, keep talking to her. Once this has happened a few times, and she’s engaging with you - rather than just being polite and trying to get away ASAP - then ask her out. This doesn’t have to take a long time, it could be as quick as a couple of days, if you’re getting good responses from her.
It would be nice for someone else to take the spotlight in the clown show.
Sincerely, the UK.
Yeah that’s a better way of phrasing it.