You and I both resonate on the same fundamental truth, but I get the sense that you’re more actively wishing death, “I hope beyond hope that we fully die out”, where I am more so just paranoid and avoidant. I agree that that activists do thankless work. The phrase, “We are predisposed to be cruel,” sounds Hobbesian in that it presupposes that man is naturally cruel, though I never read Hobbes so I don’t know actually. I think people are naturally irrational, but not cruel per se. I think they are also great at adapting, which leads to a frog in boiling water situation; there’s a sort of natural adaptation to toxic environments without knowing how or wanting to fix it. I think you’re more so an intense “hate humanity” misanthrope while I’m more a “mistrust & fear humanity” misanthrope. Fight/flight, anger/fear, both are responding to the same perceived stress.
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Because it has massive implications. When I leave my house, I encounter people and i can’t treat them equally. I have to be cogizent that they are batshit insane. I’m using colorful language for effect, and i recognize it’s ableist. I mean more-so that they aren’t’ rational or intellectually honest. However, it’s deeper than that because even when I’m home, i can’t engage with people online either because they are the same people ahahaha. So I’m naming my cat “realty” so i can pay attention to reality or maybe “Clarity” because there is truth in love (such as petcare), and truth is clear.
Because I’m not insecure, nor do i feel unworthy. If people disagree in my worth, that’s their issue, and again, it reconfirms the concept that they are insane
Maybe that would be a shower essay
That’s fair when considering other massive online platforms. I guess subconsciously I assume people are somehow less insane in real life than online, but the book “just how dumb are we”, facts in history, and other statistics show people are wackos universally
It’s a complete thought. Subject + verb.
I’m not saying I’m not utterly insane too. I am a people afterall. Considering that 99% of people are non-vegan, nearly everyone is like a flesh-craving vampire/zombie. That’s just scratching the surface as being a decent and intelligent person has more filters obviously. There are asshole vegans, so “not being an asshole” is another filter that groups many people into as well. I’d say majority of reddit/lemmy people are assholes.
quacky@lemmy.worldbanned_from_community_badgeOPto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•The past 48 hours, lemmy users argued in favor of hate and armed groups. Otherwise, you are a fascist, rape apologist. Is this sentiment common online or what?11·21 hours agoRemoved by mod
quacky@lemmy.worldOPto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•negativity is probably destructive to relationships24·22 hours agoYou and I are playing two different games. it seems like you’re trying to “take me down” while I’m just identifying your behavior patterns for the audience. False accusations, labeling & insults (e.g., troll, pathetic, incapable). These are all examples of emotional immaturity.
quacky@lemmy.worldbanned_from_community_badgeOPto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•The past 48 hours, lemmy users argued in favor of hate and armed groups. Otherwise, you are a fascist, rape apologist. Is this sentiment common online or what?15·22 hours agoRemoved by mod
quacky@lemmy.worldOPto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•negativity is probably destructive to relationships23·22 hours agoEach comment of yours fits the narcissistic style of speaking: Invalidation, blaming, emotional immaturity, you-statements.
quacky@lemmy.worldbanned_from_community_badgeOPto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•The past 48 hours, lemmy users argued in favor of hate and armed groups. Otherwise, you are a fascist, rape apologist. Is this sentiment common online or what?23·22 hours agoRemoved by mod
quacky@lemmy.worldOPto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•negativity is probably destructive to relationships21·22 hours agoyeah ok pal. Narcissistic talking style.
quacky@lemmy.worldbanned_from_community_badgeOPto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•The past 48 hours, lemmy users argued in favor of hate and armed groups. Otherwise, you are a fascist, rape apologist. Is this sentiment common online or what?15·22 hours agoRemoved by mod
quacky@lemmy.worldOPto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•negativity is probably destructive to relationships12·22 hours agoI was in a relationship like this and it was a PR nightmare because all our friends/family would think we are “fighting” like domestic violence when in actuality it was simple difference of opinion, like whether we should budget or what to have for dinner.
quacky@lemmy.worldbanned_from_community_badgeOPto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Is civility unpopular? Was it ever?25·23 hours agoRemoved by mod
quacky@lemmy.worldOPto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•negativity is probably destructive to relationships12·23 hours agoNice dodge. No, i am just literate. I read books. I write papers. I could guess that you may be projecting.
quacky@lemmy.worldOPto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•negativity is probably destructive to relationships11·24 hours agoOk and who are you? Why should anyone care about whether you are convinced or not? Are you a bouncer at a private club?
quacky@lemmy.worldOPto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•negativity is probably destructive to relationships14·1 day agoThat second part sounds like punishment (i.e., accountability, called out, and schism which I interpret to mean exclusion or banishment). Am i understanding correctly? There’s negativity and then there’s punishment. Punishment seems like a subcategory of negativity because it’s a bad, not good thing.
Every moment and daily action would be rational and empathetic. Here are some scenarios I witnessed today. I’ll swap them to more ideal
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Example 1
Real scenario: A train operator stops the train and yells at a man for apparently smoking at the train stop prior to boarding. The operator demands the passenger leaves for breaking the “no smoking before pickup” rule. The man is flushed red and has tears in his eyes. The operator is so convicted in their anger that they have no empathy.
Ideal scenario: The train operator does not take his anger out on others. He forgives the man for breaking the rule, as ultimately no one is harmed. The train operator uses his power and authority to ensure the man gets home safely. The train operator values the well-being of the man more than arbitrary rules because he is empathetic, forgiving, and kind.
Example 2
Real scenario: A homeless man boards the bus. He has heavy bags he wrestles with. The bus driver demands the homeless man to hurry up to sit down as the bus operator “has to go.” The homeless man obeys but is tangled in heavy bags and uncomfortable to cater to the demands of the bus driver
Ideal scenario: The bus driver is patient and allows time for the homeless man to sit down. The bus driver may even help the man with his stuff. The driver prioritizes their passengers safety and well-being over arbitrary things like timeliness.
Example 3
Real scenario: A boarding passenger of the train takes a big puff of their electronic cigarette and puffs it inside.
Ideal scenario: The boarding passenger throws away their electronic cigarette as it harms their well-being. This has the added benefit of not polluting the common air with toxic & addictive chemicals. … Meanwhile, all electronic cigarette companies had an epiphany and decides to not sell their products anymore as they realize it is killing humanity, and they do not want to profit off the sickening of their fellow humans.
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In each scenario, the relevant actors try to be more compassionate to themselves and others. I could give more examples, but 3 is good enough.