• AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works
    5·
    7 days ago

    honestly if I met my 14 year old self I’d give that kid a hug. they wouldn’t accept it, but wow did they need it. turns out shit does, in fact, get better.

  • CaptPretentious@lemmy.world
    4·
    7 days ago

    I’d say probably. But would be very sad in how little we ride bike now (used to be all the time, year round, rain, snow, or sunshine). But we’re not yelled at every single day! Got a good job that even teenager me would think is cool.

    • Boomer Humor Doomergod@lemmy.worldEnglish
      39·
      9 days ago

      Considering how horny I was at 14 I’d have been stoked to know there was even more sex I could have.

      Shame I’m not even a little bi. (I checked.)

      • curbstickle@anarchist.nexusEnglish
        25·
        8 days ago

        Shame I’m not even a little bi. (I checked.)

        Well as long as you did your due diligence, I’m sure no one will complain.

          • Aniki@feddit.org
            5·
            8 days ago

            in my personal experience, attraction has little to do with gender and much more to do with personality. if i just don’t vibe with the other person, it doesn’t matter whether they’re male/female, i can’t get with them. It has literally nothing to do with gender. everything with mindset. ok i admit it, the body does play a role, but not 100%.

            • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
              3·
              8 days ago

              Yeah a lot of bi people feel that way. I lose all horniness when I smell “man smell”. And I can say it’s absolutely about that because the incident was with someone who had just stopped testosterone and after a few weeks we were sleeping together a few times a week for months.

              Personality is nice for me, but it’s body shape and feel and smell that do it for me, and it all points to women for me.

  • isleepinahammock@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    21·
    8 days ago

    I’m going to enjoy torturing my 14-year-old self. My 14-year-old self was a shithead. But I was raised in a conservative Catholic house, and at that age I firmly embraced the version of reality common among the Fox News set. I was that annoying conservative high schooler. Sure I was repping hard, but I was still an idiot.

    Now I’m a late-30s trans woman, about to celebrate 8 years of marriage to my wonderful husband.

    The things I can say. I’m going to haunt this kid’s dreams.

  • Pudutr0n@lemmy.world
    21·
    8 days ago

    Look man, If I wanted to disappoint two people at once I’d take my parents out for dinner or find a couple of neurotypicals and have a threesome.

  • Malyca@lemmy.zip
    19·
    9 days ago

    Hell yeah she would. I’m relatively safe and no longer being traumatized, that’s all she ever wanted.

  • TrackinDaKraken@lemmy.worldEnglish
    17·
    9 days ago

    14-year-old me would not be impressed, but 24-year-old me would be.

    The difference is experience and understanding what the hell we’re all up against.

  • fartographer@lemmy.world
    15·
    8 days ago

    I’m not sure if I’d be proud or disappointed.

    trigger warning

    By age 10, I’d already decided I was going to kill myself at 24, and I was looking forward to it, assuming I hadn’t already died by then. By my 14th birthday, I was doing my annual countdown from 10.

    I don’t know if I’d be excited that I found things that made life worth living, or consider myself a failure for getting it wrong when I tried. Reflecting on that age, I don’t think myself an idiot or anything, I just see a kid who tried their best with what they had, and had already given up on what seemed like an inescapable situation. I feel bad for 14 year-old me, and I’m not sure I’d be able to face that kid without feeling completely destroyed.

    • Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.orgEnglish
      5·
      8 days ago

      Why 24? If you don’t mind asking. That’s kinda odd number.

      Like i chose 18, as im an adult by then and all the drug lectures at school painted a picture that I’d be offered drugs everywhere. So the plan was to OD at 18th birthday, seemed kinda nice way to go and a better alternative than become communal Fleshlight in the prison. Not that there was even any realistic threat of that happening, but thats in hindsight.

    • Jax@sh.itjust.works
      3·
      8 days ago

      So, I don’t know if there’s some kind of psychological phenomenon at play here — but it sounds like something very similar to a circumstance my mom went through (albeit, the stakes were much different).

      She used to smoke, and when she decided she wanted to have a kid (eventually me) she gave it up. What she told herself was that if she quit and wanted to start back up at 65, ok? Who cares, she’s already old at that point so it’s not like it’s worse than having smoked for the previous 45 years.

      Eventually never went back to them. She is actually repulsed by cigarettes now.

      I think what I take from that is my mom didn’t really give up cigarettes, at least not psychologically. In her mind she could go back at any time and there was no issue, she’d just go back to not smoking (and she didn’t even do that, she just quit). I wonder if maybe a similar thing happened to you here? You gave yourself a goal so far ahead in the future that you also gave yourself ample time to grow — even if that goal was inevitably death. It’s almost like sewerslide was your way of equalizing the playing field.

      Idk, I could be wrong — I’m glad you didn’t go through with it, though.

      • fartographer@lemmy.world
        3·
        8 days ago

        I accredit proper medication, scaring the shit out of my friends and family who I thought would have been happy if I were gone, and LARGELY that change in mindset that you’re talking about.

        Thank you for sharing that story